When I was twelve, in 1972, the Beatles had just broken up, and popular TV shows like The Waltons and Kung Fu were all the rage. My parents' basement, with its red shag carpet and vibrant 1970s decor, became the backdrop for a pivotal moment in my life. The basement had a few cool features—a pool table, orange leather chairs, and a well-stocked bar in the corner. I was there with my friend David, an aspiring musician with rock star looks reminiscent of Jon Bon Jovi. Girls adored him, though I'd never admit his good looks to his face.

That night, David pulled out a pint of brandy from the bar and urged me to take a sip, insisting it was good. I felt a nervous churn in my stomach but succumbed to the powerful peer pressure. I secretly aspired to be like David—popular, attractive, and living the rockstar life. At twelve, that seemed like the ultimate dream.

I'd never had a drink before, and while I wasn’t sure I wanted one, I desperately wanted to please my friend. The anxiety was overwhelming. Have you ever done something just to impress someone else? I was desperate to fit in. 

I took my first sip. The burning sensation of the brandy as it went down my throat was followed by a giddy, dizzy feeling. It felt like an elixir of truth, granting me courage and acceptance. For the first time, I didn't feel nervous. I felt confident, able to interact with others. Previously, I'd been a solitary child, engrossed in reading and science, terrified of approaching girls or speaking in public. Now, with alcohol, I felt like I could walk into a party without a panic attack. I believed I was finally cool.

Alcohol became my constant companion through highs and lows, leading me down dark, dusty roads and nearly costing me my life. To move forward and succeed, I had to say goodbye to this deceptive best friend. Many of you may have similar stories. My dark journey with alcohol lasted thirty years until I made the life-changing decision to quit. This was the first of many essential steps.

How does one change the trajectory of their life for the better? It takes courage to admit the need for fundamental change. It requires fortitude to face the challenges ahead and extreme resilience to stay the course. The first step toward monumental change must be followed by daily commitment. Nothing should deter you from your goal. Each of us has the power to decide. This fateful decision led me to success and happiness beyond my comprehension. We all have the power to change, and you are not alone in your desire to do so.